Have you ever wondered what it might feel like to not be be in the midst of chasing yet another goal you’ve set for yourself?
To feel at peace, content, fulfilled, grateful and, dare I actually say it, happy… right now instead of some day in the future?
To feel like you’ve got everything under control, even when things are all topsy turvy and inside out?
Girl, if you’ve been daydreaming about this stuff, thinking it’s not just possible, we gotta talk. Because I’ve been there.
Hi there, beautiful! I’m Katie, a recovering procrastinator, over-achiever, goal-getter and formerly burnt out stress head. Not too long ago, I was like you chasing, chasing, chasing… trying everything I could get my hands on to feel happy. I thought my light was at the other end of my next big achievement, but found time and time again that I was left with the same disappointing feeling of emptiness and a void that I would inevitably try to fill again. Being an all or nothing kind of gal, I found myself binging… a lot. Sometimes with alcohol, sometimes with food, sometimes with netflix, sometimes with personal development. Either way, it was always an external factor I was seeking out. The truth is, I didn’t feel like I was enough. I was convinced that there was a piece missing, something I just hadn’t quite understood yet and if only I could have that great big aha moment… you know, then everything would be different. Sound familiar?
What I have discovered is that, in fact, I do have everything I need at my disposal to be happy, to feel like I am worthy, to be flawed but still feel complete. That all I needed was a system to follow, to develop a few skills, the love and support of a community (for when the old habits creep in) and the tenacity to keep doing the do each day. Understanding that “we are what we repeatedly do, [that] excellence then not an act but a habit” changed everything for me. (Thanks to my homeboy, Aristotle for that piece of wisdom!) That’s why I created the Balanced Living Babes community. To bring us all together, to uplift, support and push each other to the heights of happiness we’ve all been craving for far too long. It’s our time!
What if all the chasing, chasing, chasing could stop for you? Imagine yourself feeling content right now, with everything you have. Choosing to move forward not out of a need to feel happy but out of a desire to take things to the next level. For fun. For joy. For you.
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Core desired feelings
lit-up, expansive, creative, aligned
Q & A
Q: What are your Core Desired Feelings?
Lit-up, Expansive, Creative, Aligned + Connected.
Q: How / where did you Desire Map? What did you love about doing it that way?
I began working my way through The Desire Map initially on my own while traveling, and then completed the workbook at home with my husband. I loved the time freedom and flexibility, and then sharing it with my husband and uncovering our Core Desired Feelings together was a blast!
Q: Tell me a specific story about how knowing your CDFs has changed your life.
By nature, I am a notorious overachiever and massive goal setter. And I also tend to suffer from what my coach nicknames, "goal hangovers". Like, huge ones. To prevent that feeling of loss, my natural tendency was to set myself a new goal to chase.
With my health, it was things like transformative fitness competition - to running a marathon - to bikini fitness competition - to 365 days of yoga challenge. You get my drift.
Knowing my CDFs allowed me to know that what I was really chasing. The feeling. Of alignment (within myself and the world) as well as feeling lit-up. You see, starting something new was giving me that sense of impending excitement, but when it got hard, I would stop and never really understand why. I just thought I was a quitter.
Nowadays, I chase the feelings. I'm all about feeling aligned, so yoga is perfect on so many levels, but having fun and being lit-up is high on my list of priorities too. So that means experimenting with community-style workout programs, group fitness classes, dancing using YouTube to have fun. And if I do set myself a big goal (because there's nothing wrong with that) I am aware of my CDFs to guide me throughout the process, and prevent that innate desire to quit.
Q: Why are you passionate about sharing this work with others?
I see it all the time. Chasing, chasing, chasing. And in the meantime, sacrifice, stress and....urgh, so much waiting. Life is so short and is meant to be lived with passion and purpose. But most importantly, with happiness. I love helping beautiful souls to realise that they not only deserve to feel the way they want to, but that it's possible to create those feelings and let them guide you in every single moment, of every single day. So although you might still be hustling towards a big, beautiful goal, while you're doing it, you're damn well going to feel alive.