I'm a Licensed Massage Therapist, Certified Hypnotherapist, and Hoopdance Instructor.
I'm a mother of 3.
An avid reader.
I love plants more than is reasonable.
I discovered the Desire Map in 2015 and it completely revolutionized my life. I am light-years away from where I was just a few years ago and it's all to the credit of getting my goal setting process aligned with my core desired feelings. I'm now guts and glory passionate about this process and love to teach others about how to use this knowledge to LIVE.
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Core desired feelings
opulent, earthy, formidable, hot
Q & A
Q: What are your Core Desired Feelings?
My Core Desired Feelings are Opulent, Earthy, Formidable and HOT. I had to try on a few different ones throughout the year, they kept feeling almost there but not quite on target. I had to let myself get vulnerable (Yikes! Uncomfortable!) before I landed on just the right ones.
The feeling you get when you realize you've selected the words that really NAIL what you're after, is pure magic. Everything in you screams "YES!!" and suddenly the things you have to do become much clearer.
Q: How / where did you Desire Map? What did you love about doing it that way?
I desire mapped everywhere. I toted the book around with me wherever I went. I'd pull it out and read a page or paragraph whenever the urge came. With 3 kids, work and general life always happening I had to steal whatever time I could find.
I loved doing it this way.
I could chew on little bits at a time without feeling any pressure or guilt. I could write out my answers if I had the moment, I could mull it over in my mind, I could stream of consciousness my answers out loud to my partner, my infant or my school aged kids (talk about great conversation starters!).
I basically took this process into my every day life, and isn't that ultimately the point? It isn't a separate thing you do and then put down and go back to business as usual. You have to let these ideas permeate your entire existence and then live them.
Q: Tell me a specific story about how knowing your CDFs has changed your life.
I have several stories about how knowing my CDFs have changed my life! I think the story that's most important to tell is how knowing my CDFs got me through not only a divorce but also what was effectively homelessness.
I was finishing massage school, I didn't have a car, I was only earning $40 a week for babysitting, I was struggling to accept that I was not an effective homeschool mom and my kids had to go to public school as well as having to split custody with my ex and I was on the receiving end of the assorted emotions of said heartbroken ex. Everything felt really raw. I often felt overwhelmed by feelings that I couldn't even identify, I felt stuck and had no idea how I was going to crawl out of that wreckage. It came to a point where my kids and I were crashing on a friend's living room floor and then a tent in my parents backyard- an hour away from where I was due to start work and they were enrolled in school.
The light at the end of the tunnel was knowing what I was working towards. At that time, I had no way of knowing what would happen from one day to the next let alone next month. All the real world, physical details were hazy and I didn't really know where I was heading exactly. My only anchor came in the form of my CDFs. I craved freedom, adventure, security, love and happiness. With that in my view I trudged forward holding onto the faith that I would arrive.
Q: Why are you passionate about sharing this work with others?
I'm passionate about sharing this work with others because I don't know how much longer it would have taken me to pluck up the courage to do the hard things I had to do. Maybe I'd still be suffering under the weight of everything. There's no way of knowing. What I do know is that the Desire Map process led me out of darkness and led me home. I wasn't in an economically secure place. I was drowning. I had huge responsibilities and absolutely no means. And I think that is an important lesson, because it's easy to assume this Desire Map process is just for people of privilege and means. Of course it's easier for people who don't worry about how they're going to feed their kids today to decide they want to feel affluent and make decisions accordingly. But as someone who was at the bottom, I can tell you this process is every bit as beneficial when you have absolutely nothing. It gives you mooring. It gives you direction. It gives you hope. It makes you believe in yourself. Who wouldn't benefit from that?